Why you can't trust boy. friends.
I don't mean boyfriends in the romantic type, I am not wise enough to advise on relationships just yet (check Cupcate for that). I mean male friends, unromantically linked men in your life. I am no expert on the way mens minds work, I feel you would need to take extended post graduate study to fully understand that but as I have three brothers I have come to understand a basic level of their behaviour.
Untilvery recently most of my best friends were male. I don't know why, I'm not especially boy-ish but for many years women seemed to have issues with me. These days I live with three lovely ladies and although I still have many male friends I am not crazy enough to actually live with men. Fact: Boys have smelly rooms.
Generalisations out the way. Today I was reminded of the problem with having male friends. Although they are great fun, generally relatively honest and easy going male friends have varying levels of loyalty. Whilst your girl friends would (hopefully) feel immense guilt for standing you up or forgetting something important to you, men don't even consider you unless you're with them or barraging them with calls. This is why boyfriends (in a romantic way) are different because you are in constant contact and can remind them regularly of any plans you might have. Boy friends need a little bit more persuasion.
If said male friend has a girlfriend (who invariably will not like me but thats by the by) you are even less likely to see them unless the girlfriend reminds him. The thing is, you wouldn't expect a guy to call you just for a chat. There are guys who do this but they are RARE, even boyfriends require training for that! I can sit with my BFF (who is a girl) and talk utter nonsense for hours and then still speak on the phone later in the day and some how not run out of conversation. Phone conversations with guys are often very forced and straight to the point.
Needless to say, a male friend of mine forgot to tell me something vital today. And then wondered why I was pissed off.
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That's true, I have 4 bros. and two out of four are different. I also have problems with making friends with girls, they always claim your too boy-ish to be friends but I never gave a damn. Like u said great company, bad ears and they are in some ways worse than girls. There are those RARE special ones, we all hope to find, and we will. Good post.
Heh,heh I'm wondering if they know sometimes, but they don't like a weaker vessel to tell them a bout what they do, its not manly to even show love sometimes. I personally get hurt by what they say, but now...my give a damn is busted but, still able to love,its builds your character in plenty of ways. Shame some don't care at all about anything. But I avoid them, so...take care. See u around.